4. "If I could just have X, everything would be so much better."
The truth is, if we’re not happy now, we won’t be happy when we get “the prize”—the love interest, the pay raise, the "perfect" body. Remember, many of the things you have in your life now were once things you wished for. There is no magic “thing” eluding you. The biggest magic you can apply to your life now is appreciation. Appreciation makes everything better, and it turns what you have into enough.
5. "I’m stuck."
Even though it doesn’t feel like it, we always have a choice. Whether you feel like you can't move to a new apartment, get a new job, or get out of a relationship, there's always a way. I had a life coaching client earlier this year who wanted to start a photography business on the side, but said she couldn’t because she had “no time, no resources, and no idea where to start!”
What she actually was saying was, “If I just tried a little harder, I could be a kick-butt photographer part-time, but I'm choosing to be a victim instead.” She would rather hang onto this lie than risk going for it. It may seem safer than the risk of failure, but I'm telling you, it’s not. It just worsens over time.
6. "I'm not ready to do X."
No one ever truly feels ready for anything—parenthood, entrepreneurship, change. We just begin. That is how we become ready. If you say you aren't ready for something, you are either not really interested in doing it or you are procrastinating (most likely out of fear). Which is it?
7. "I’m not good enough."
This is the biggest lie of all. You are good enough. You are enough. You do not need to do anything to deserve a full, rich, and happy life. As Oprah said, "There's a difference between thinking you deserve to be happy and knowing that you are worthy of being happy. Your being alive makes happiness your birthright. You alone are enough."
Susie Moore is Greatist’s life coach columnist and a confidence coach in New York City. Her new book, What If It Does Work Out?, is available on Amazon now.
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