Shyness is not introversion. While introverts love to stay quiet, shyness is as a result of miscalculated negative scrutiny. You stay quiet not by choice, but because you cannot gather the guts to talk to new people. There is a lack of self-confidence, fear of meeting new people, and self-consciousness.
Research shows that shyness is a vicious cycle. You fear social settings because you fear negative evaluation. So, you avoid the situation. Initially you feel good and relieved when you do so. However, with time, relief turns into self-pity and other negative emotions that in turn turns into anger towards others. You start blaming people for being inconsiderate and it thus becomes a cycle. However, you can overcome shyness with consistent efforts. Here 5 tips on how to get rid of shyness.
1.Stop over thinking
The main reason to shyness is analyzing little too much and then expecting negative reaction. Don’t analyse every conversation that you have. And, stop replaying the moments in your head before and after it happens. If a conversation didn’t go according to plan or ended on an awkward note, be kind to yourself. Everyone messes up sometimes.
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