How to Take Care of Naughty Kids

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5.Don’t give in. Especially when a child throws a tantrum in a public place, such as the grocery store, it may seem that the best thing to do is to simply give them what they want so they will stop embarrassing you. However, this is a bad idea, and will only reinforce that throwing a tantrum will get them what they want. It may seem like a good idea at the time, but you will be sorry you did it the next time they throw a tantrum in the exact same situation.

6.Don’t yell at them. When a child is having a tantrum, and you are getting frustrated with them, it can be very tempting to yell at them to knock it off. However, at this point, yelling is unlikely to help the situation, and will likely only increase the stress levels of the child, and of yourself.
Instead, keep the tone of your voice calm and even. If you feel like you are going to yell if you open your mouth, then don’t say anything at all. If you are losing your temper, it may be best to walk away from the situation for a few minutes, provided your child is not in danger of harming themselves.

7.Remove the thing that caused the tantrum. When the child has calmed down, you should remove the item that caused the tantrum, and replace it with something quiet and relaxing for the child to focus on.

For example, if your child was upset because they wanted a candy bar, move the child away from the candy section, and let them look through a magazine while you finish the shopping.

8.Remind the child that you love them. Tell the child that while you didn’t love their behavior, you do love them, and that you always will. It is important for a child to understand that your love for them is not reliant upon their good behavior.
For example, you should say, “That tantrum back there was pretty bad, I hope you understand that I don't enjoy it when you yell and scream like that, but I do love you very much, even when you throw tantrums.” Don’t say, “You were a very bad kid back there. Sometimes, it’s hard to love you when you act like that.”

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